The Moderation Myth: Why It’s Keeping You Stuck

Why Moderation = Frustration (And What To Do Instead)

“Everything in moderation” is one of the most common phrases you’ll hear in the fitness industry.

The idea? You can enjoy whatever foods you want, just in moderation.

It sounds great in theory. But in reality? It doesn’t work for most people—especially when you’re just starting your health journey.

I’ve wrestled with this for years. I understand the intent behind it, and I’m not a fan of restrictive diets either. But I’ve also seen firsthand that a “no boundaries” approach doesn’t work.

Extreme restriction creates stress and burnout. But no structure leads to poor results and frustration.

Here’s the biggest reason I believe “moderation” is misleading advice:

What it takes to get fit and what it takes to stay fit are two very different things.

Most influencers selling “moderation” aren’t following that advice themselves. They’ve spent years (or decades) tracking food, working out 6 days a week, and building discipline before ever getting to a place of balance.

But now they’re telling you that you can work out 3x/week for 30 minutes and eat whatever you want “in moderation” and expect the same results.

No wonder you feel frustrated when it doesn’t work.

If you’re not seeing the results you want, moderation might not be the right strategy right now.

That doesn’t mean you can never enjoy food again. It just means you may need short-term sacrifice to reach your long-term goals.

Once you’ve put in the work, maintaining is easier.

But the truth is, if you want to look and feel your best, you’ll need to approach food and fitness differently for a season. That starts with more clarity and structure—not less.

Here’s how to break free from the moderation myth and actually get results:

Tip #1: Identify What’s Holding You Back

You already know what’s not helping. Is it the nightly drinks? The sugary snacks? The weekend takeout? Start by identifying the one thing that’s consistently sabotaging your progress.

Tip #2: Select a Timeframe

You don’t have to give it up forever. But you do need a clear timeline—30, 60, or 90 days. Commit, and don’t back out.

Tip #3: Be Specific

Set clear rules so there’s no room for debate. Are you cutting out sugar, alcohol, or all restaurant food? Know exactly what you’re committing to.

Tip #4: Change One Thing at a Time

Don’t overhaul your entire life at once. Start with the one habit that’s holding you back the most. Nail that, then build from there.

Tip #5: Tell Someone

Accountability multiplies success. Tell someone what you’re doing. Let them check in with you regularly.

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This might sound rigid or intense—but sometimes that’s exactly what’s needed to break through a plateau and finally get momentum.

If “everything in moderation” hasn’t worked for you, it’s time to try something different.

The results you want are on the other side of structure and commitment.

Go get after it.